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Male baby blues

Male baby blues

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Pregnancy and puerperium it an extremely difficult period in a woman's life. Although we are getting better prepared theoretically, the lack of "mortar in battle" does its job. Tiredness, confusion, shock caused by labor pain, and finally the confrontation of ideas with reality - they do their job. It is estimated that baby blues syndrome affects 50-80% of women. What about men?

Former, traditional fathers almost did not participate in the life of the newborn. They were not affected by the period of pregnancy. During the delivery they stood in front of the delivery room's door (if they were present at all). Sometimes, instead of helping a newly baked mother, they dealt with a grand celebration (often several days). Changing, bathing and general care of the newborn belonged only to the mother. Today? Committed, modern fathers do not have light. In addition to professional work, they have to face tasks that were once seen as a job for women. How do they endure this?


Increasingly, couples decide to "give birth" together. Although the hardest task cannot be divided, the man experiences the birth of a child very emotionally. Of course, the one who, waiting under the hospital building, smokes nervously (or nibbles at his nails) also experiences moments of stress, but I dare say that it is incomparable to those that tear at a participant in the spectacle called delivery. The man in the delivery room not only participates in the miracle of birth, but is also a witness to the great suffering of his beloved. It happens that after particularly dramatic births, men experience a period of resentment towards the child, which they blame in some way. Of course, much more often the delivery process is flawless, but even a "normal" delivery is a huge experience. Fear, pride, uncertainty, joy, loss - these and many other feelings are swirling in the birthing head. The same emotions tug at your partner.

Expectations vs reality

Has become. After a heroic childbirth, we return home. Refined in every inch layette waiting in a friendly colorful room. The father welcomes you to the home of a cute, delightful baby. It soon turns out that the idealized vision of parenthood straight from diaper advertising has little to do with reality.

Yes. We are all fooled. Gender doesn't matter. It turns out that, contrary to popular belief, newborns do not sleep all day. They have time and energy for many hours of concerts.

They have painful colic. You can't play football and go fishing with them (yes, I know that no adult man expects him to do it with a week-old boy, but it is a permanent element of male ideas of fatherhood). They make dizzy poop. They are amazingly inactive and extremely absorbing.