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How to explain a tragedy and death to children


Nobody, absolutely no one is free to feel affected and saddened by the news about tragedies, deaths, accidents that are broadcast on television, radio, social networks and other media on the Internet.

For an adult it is already difficult to face these situations, I imagine what happens with children, with these beings who still do not know many of the reasons, who have hardly had experiences in their short lives. What about these creatures that day after day we parents try to defend them from pain and overprotect them, in some cases.

Explain to children situations such as a serious accident or deathIt is surely one of the most difficult moments that parents and relatives have to face, especially if the person in question is very close to the child. The way that children understand these situations changes according to their age. That is why it is very important for parents to know how to explain a tragedy or death to their children.

Until the age of 5, children cannot really understand what death is. They cannot have this consciousness. If we have to tell you that a family member has died, it is best that we are prepared to answer your questions. Surely, a 5 or 6-year-old child will ask the parents where this person will be, and it is best to give them very short answers such as "he has gone to a better place," for example. The important thing is not to lie to him saying that he is coming back or something similar.

By 7 or 8 years of age, children already have a greater awareness of death. Death for them becomes a much more final and distressing situation, and how difficult it is to explain something that even we do not know. At these ages, children know that the dead will no longer return and that therefore death is final. Parents will not be able to avoid their grief and will try to reassure them, without drama. Understanding, patience, as well as support and affection are essential at this time. It is not so easy to explain death to children, since each child is a world in terms of sensitivity as well. Each one understands and experiences grief in their own way. Some may view death and tragedy as injustice, and others may view it as insurmountable.

The role of the parents in these situations is crucial to encourage children. Guiainfantil.com offers us some ideas:

1- Encourage the child to talk about what happened, about what you feel, what you think about it. Encourage him to express his feelings.

2- Encourage the child to remember the good times he has had and the family with the person who has died.

3- Do not leave the child without answers to his questions. Death is a mystery, nobody knows exactly what happens to the person who dies, where they will go, etc.

4- Take the child to a specialist in the event that his grief does not end or when he cannot overcome the sadness over the loss of a loved one.

5- Do not create false expectations in the child. The truth must always go ahead so that the child can assimilate the situation as soon as possible.

6- Be patient with the child. Children need time, space, love, and support to overcome their pain. They should never live their grief alone.

I particularly think that, despite the deaths, it is best to explain life to children, always. It is the only thing we all know what it is about and for which we should be thankful every day.

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