Adoption of children from 0 to 3 years

Conversations between parents and children should be appropriate to the child's stage of development, temperament and external influences, whether he is adopted or not. When it comes to adoption, it is necessary to consider that adopted children experience the pain of separation from their biological parents when they are born. All adopted children must adjust to new sights, new sounds, new smells, and new experiences.

During the preverbal and early verbal stages, parents have a perfect opportunity to begin to share the topic of adoption with the child in a calm and comfortable way, thus building the foundation for future dialogue, trust and truth. Here are some tips on how to discuss adoption with children:

- Use the word adoption frequently. This will give them a chance to get used to saying the word without feeling uncomfortable or upset.

- Use the word adoption at a time when you feel close to your child.

- Use the word adoption spontaneously. Don't say it too often, only when it seems natural to do so.

Your child, of course, will not understand these conversations, but he will begin to become familiar with the term adoption and the tones you use to refer to the subject. Be honest with yourself so that you can be honest with your children. You are an adoptive family and you cannot change that fact.

Your children have the right to know, when possible, about their background and their adoption. If you try to hide the facts from them, they will feel cheated and betrayed when they eventually discover the secrets (and they will). As your little ones show more curiosity regarding life and birth, they will be more interested in what role they play in the scheme of existence.

- Prepare to be questioned. Consider every question your child asks about his birth as an opportunity to talk about adoption.

- Answer only what the child asks without going into details. These questions are characteristics that all children ask, and your children will be no exception: How did the baby come out? Was I born that way? Was I in your belly, mom? Why didn't I grow in your belly?Explain to your child that babies come out through a special opening that all women have, and that we are all born that way. That he did not grow in your belly, but he grew in that of another lady and when he was born, you adopted him. Let him know how happy you are for his birth and that he is part of the whole family.

When your child asks why he did not grow in your belly, you can answer that not all children grow in his mother's belly. And he had to come from another belly. If you wish, add that you wanted to have a child, so that he grew up in the belly of another lady, and when he was born, you went looking for him and adopted him.

- Don't try to tell your child more than he can understand. As they grow, the information will also grow and be more suitable for them, depending on their age. It is important to tell her not only about her history after joining the family, but also about her origins and her parents. This concept of a global life story is critical to the development of his identity, and it should include everything you know about the day he was born. The child needs to know that his birth was the same as all other children, that he is part of a family, and that families are made up of people who live together and love each other.

From 1 to 3 years old children are very busy gaining control of themselves and the world. Physically, the real control begins during this stage, toilet training, walking, self-feeding, your parents through no, etc. Around the age of 3, the child begins to learn about the family and to focus his interests on how and when he was born.

Before your children can understand the adoption process and the different ways a family can be formed, they need to understand the ways in which you can have a child. It is around this age that they begin to wonder if they grew in their mother's tummy; therefore, here is an opportune moment to explain the adoption process and the different ways that a child can enter a family.

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